How To Ignore The Asshole In Your Mind?


If you take nothing else from this post, this entire blog or from me, I urge you to take this one piece of advice and don’t ever forget it.

Open your evernote on the side to pin some points.

Lets begin!!!!

Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds.”

We all have a voice inside our heads, which always tells us that we are useless piece of a shit. Zen has given this voice the name of “Mind Chatters” and the thing is that “mind chatter” never stops. It’s always going on in your daily life.

But if you listen to this mind chatter and let it dictate your life, you’re going to lose your shit. You don’t know the power of this voice; it can make you quit your startup, abandon your favorite blog, leave your beautifully written novels unfinished and much more.

It’s really tough to shut up this jerk speaking inside our head.

Don’t believe what I said till know? Don’t worry I will prove it.

Whatever you do, don’t think about a pink elephant. Don’t think about a pink elephant at all. Now close your eyes for next 30 sec. Wait don’t close them yet. Finish reading this paragraph, then close them. OK you can close your eyes now but remember you don’t have to think about the pink elephant.


Now, I’ll bet that you saw the image of pink elephant popping in your mind.

To achieve success in your life you need to shut down this voice and take control on your mind chatter.

I know it’s difficult but if you shut that jerk out somehow you can do anything.

The following points will help you out to shut up that jerk.

Point 1 Never use the word don’t.


Always remember that your subconscious mind is a Nuclear Bomb and the password to trigger that bomb is “DON’T”.

Now we know that if that bomb blasts we will die so our brain has designed itself to ignore that word so that the bomb will never got triggered.

When you say to yourself, “Don’t imagine a pink elephant,” your subconscious mind will delete the word ‘DON’T”, and hear your request as “Imagine a pink elephant.” The result is that you’ll always see the image of a pink elephant first.

For example;

When a person on diet tells himself that no matter what, “I don’t want to eat a chocolate cake”, but your subconscious mind hears “I want to eat a chocolate cake”. What’s going to happen after that is you going to thing about the chocolate cake all the day.

  1. If you say to yourself “I don’t want to be nervous during my presentation,” your mind translates that as “want to be nervous during my presentation.”  That image of being nervous is the first thing your subconscious mind sees. Guess what happens next? You end up being nervous during your presentation. The EXACT OPPOSITE of what you really want.
  2. “I don’t hate my ex-girlfriend. But you are already feeling the hatred toward your ex-girlfriend.”

This is what happens when you use the word don’t.

So just don’t use the word don’t. Language is an very powerful asset use it properly.


Point 2 Don’t be afraid of risks.


“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”

Aren’t you feeling empty, unfulfilled and generally dissatisfied? There is always a feeling that something is missing but we don’t know what’s missing.

The missing part is “Risk”. That’s the only thing saving you from living the boring life in which you want to stab yourself in the eye with some sharp object every morning.

There are a lot of critical life lessons we never learned in school including:

If you just take what life hands you, you will probably end up pretty darn unhappy.

A Ship in Harbor Is Safe, But that Is Not What Ships Are Built For

So take my advice start taking risks in your life, whether it’s starting your life from scratch in your 20’s, purposing your old school crush, bungee jumping, scuba diving, quitting your job to start your own venture, more & more, whatever it is just start doing things which craps the hell out of you.

Here are some fast tips to get you into action:

  1. Start small. Big dreams boil down to small decisions and intentional action each day. Make a list of small daily actions you can take right now to move in the direction of your dreams.
  2. Identify a mentor or coach that has accomplished what you want to achieve. Begin studying their business and modeling what has worked for them. Begin a relationship with them if at all possible through a coaching or mentoring program.
  3. Join a community of like-minded individuals that are taking ACTION! There are online forums, meet-up groups, and professional organizations that cost nothing but will give you the support you need to break through and never look back!

Remember that every day is a new opportunity to be the best you can possibly be. It is up to you to make the most of your journey and soak up everything life has to offer.

& you don’t have to go it alone! Reach out to me at [email protected] and I will get you on the right track!


Point 3 Figure yourself inside out.

Ask yourself who you really are? What do you really want from your life? What are your life goals?

Don’t worry, this may sound little techy, but this will improve your game from others. Once you know what you want, the rest is easy.

Figuring yourself out is a whole lot of task, doesn’t take it lightly read my guide here if you don’t know what your real passion is.

Thinking why I use doesn’t instead of don’t in the upper paragraph so that the nuclear bomb inside your head will not get triggered, just kidding!!


point 4 Don’t label yourself.


From child to grown up one got various name tags. We start putting a label on others and at some point we put a label on ourselves. We got tags like struggler, useless fellow, arrogant, fatso, cheap, crazy and much more. It’s funny that how these titles from our name tags to tinder profiles define us.

We are obsessed with summing a person up with just one word. Even when we go to a party or an event, one of the most common questions you ask each other is hey, what do you do? End of the story.

Do not label yourself with any of the hashtags, don’t fall into this trap that you have to be either this or that, because you can be both. You can explore multiple career options, various interests. You can decide something one day, and then later change your mind. Avoid limiting yourself to one thing.

It doesn’t matter whether you have taken some wrong decisions in your past, you can change that now. Don’t make another mistake by following the same wrong decision you took in the past.

Because in the end What does matter, rather, are the choices you make, and how much guts you’ve got. Plain and simple.

Let me tell you a little story of the jerk inside my head.

Last year I graduated in the field I never loved neglecting the fact that I got good marks though.

Now the era of struggling with that jerk inside my head begins.

In the digital world everything was saying me to follow my passion and pursue my dream, but in the real world everyone wants me to get a high status job. I knew if I study for few exams I could have an incredible career but here I was struggling, losing ground, waking up and feeling like crying during the shower. Because I had a voice in my head who would kick off the day by telling me everything I didn’t want to hear.

You have no chance. You’re always going to fail. You’re useless.

My friends are far away from my reach busy in their own life’s and here I was sitting on a couch watching some shitty TV series, searching what to do on Google and arguing with the people around me.

Sometimes I was studying for the exam to get a job my dear ones want me to get, sometimes I was doing what I really love to do instead of studying but in reality I was on two boats traveling to different destinations.

By the time I got my shit together and decided what I really need to do, I had lost almost an entire year to that voice. These days, I’m a lot better at ignoring that voice. I’ve learned how to deal with it. I’ve become better at doing the things I love. I started blogging again and choose to start my own venture.

“It is never too late to be who you might have been.” — George Eliot

That asshole voice do comes back and try to convince me to quit but I ignored him. You need to learn to shut up that voice and do what really matters to you .

Don’t listen to that jerk and the people around you, just listen to your heart and start doing what your soul aches for.

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’” — Mary Anne Radmacher

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  1. it’s quiet helpful this blog. And yes, i hear that also that asshole voice that really bothers me everyday. And with the help of this blog i know how to deal with it. 😉

    • Glad I helped you somehow.
      It’s difficult though to handle that mind chatter but once you make a win on it, your life becomes happier and peaceful then before. Have a great day mate!😄😄

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