The Most Destructive Thing I’ve Ever Done.

The Most Destructive Thing I’ve Ever Done.

The most destructive thing I’ve ever done was believe in someone else’s opinion of me.

I always give more credence to other people opinion than mine. I let someone else’s vision become more important than my own. But I didn’t realize that I’m going to end up becoming a slave to what other people want. I stop trusting my judgment because I assume that other people know better! That’s why my life sucks in the past because I was living on their terms, not mine.


Lately, I’ve been making a lot of “unconventional” decisions in my life and the direction in which my life is headed. I’m straying away from what society believes is normal and what a college educated guy should be doing nowadays. I’m ultimately making decisions with my heart, rather than with my head. And, unfortunately, many people do raise their voice and their so called “Opinion” upon that. But am I going to let it stop me? Absolutely not.

I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception

Every one of us definitely going to encounter a situation like this at some point in their lives, whether it’s a big decision or a small one. I can already tell you that not everyone will be on board with your decision and almost everyone will have some kind of opinion on the matter. Some will voice it, others will not. It may even be your own friends and family who are going to target you. They are going to put you up on the wall and hang you up in there till you agree with their opinion. They may make you second guess yourself. They may even talk you out of something that you really, truly believed was best for you. Believe in me “you cannot let that happen.”

I’m not saying that your loved ones want something wrong for you. They’re just looking out for you and want the best for you. But they don’t know what you’re dreaming about, maybe you can’t explain to them with that enthusiasm that you feel towards your dream. But you know what? At the end of the day, you’re the one who knows what’s better for you. You’re the one who has to live with whatever decision you end up making. You’re the one who’s willing to put that much effort into your dream that no one else ever imagines off.

It’s not a bad thing at all to ask for the opinion and help from other people, especially because I do think it’s important to get some outside perspective. But when their opinion makes you put your dream into a garbage box then my friend it’s time to screw their opinion and start working on your dream venture. It’s your life if you‘re not going to drive your roller-coaster than who will?

“Problems are like washing machines. They twist; they spin and knock us around. But in the end, we come out cleaner, brighter and better than before.”


Stop Comparison

Put on your blinders. Stop looking at what everyone else is doing. Keep your eyes on your own paper. Seriously, everyone’s journey is different.

We live in a world where everyone’s life, every single little detail is out there on the internet. But unfortunately, it does more damage than good. We end up being comparing ourselves to their lives which are only going to hinder our own progress.

Comparing yourself to some extent is ok but not at the cost of your happiness and dream. Every freaking person out there is different, their circumstances are different, and they’re living a different life story. So stop comparing yourself to them. This is your life, your journey – live it your way.

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours. It is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” – Bob moawad

Make the decision of living your life on your terms. It’s a simple concept but not as easy as it sounds. Read my guide on living your life on your terms. Just forgot about the failures they are part of your success. No one ever succeeds without failing several times.

Just go with your intuition. What feels right for you? What you think is your true calling? Just go with it. Tuning into your intuition is an essential piece of letting go of other people’s opinions.

I'm on the hunt for who i've not yet become

Ultimately this is YOUR life. You’re the one who will wake up at the end of it and either feel that you’ve lived a life that was fulfilling and energizing. Or did you live a life that you regretted?

One of the biggest regrets of the dying is:

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

The only person’s opinion that really matters is your own.


Mark my words you’re going to regret later. Start believing in yourself. Work on your passion such that it makes you forget to sleep and eat. Spend time with people who urge you to level up your game and set your boundaries towards those who belittle you. Keep striving to make every single day better than the last. That’s all I’ve to say.

Let’s talk further in the comments. Bring it on…

Hi! I’m Vinay, a twenty-something Blogger who is just trying to inspire people to live happier. As someone who's riding the roller coaster of life with his partner loneliness, my goal here is to show you that there's light at the end of any struggle and to be your bff...even if it is just virtually! (: So grab your cup of coffee, Gin! (or some wine!) and let's get chatting...


    • Thank you mam. Glad to hear that my content helped you out. I visited your website you’re also doing a great work. Congrats for the versatile blogger award. Have a great day!!! 🙂

  1. Hi Vinay! 🙂 I totally agree with all of the points you discussed on your post. I used to compare myself with other people too.. and I did that a lot of times and it didn’t give me any positive results. I just realized that I need to love myself more. I cannot give what I do not have. Stay positive!

    • Hello MrsTags 🙂 One of the most extreme ways to change our life is to stop looking to other people for the validation that we seek. We actually have to be our own mother, our own father, our own best friend, our own lover. Because the wounds we carrying from childhood, and the holes we want to fill, can only be filled by us. I know this is the hardest lesson to learn but it’s worth it. Thanks for visiting. Have a lovely day!!! 🙂

  2. I’m going through the same phase of my life. Doing the unconventional. And yes.. I face a lot of point of views from my loved ones. But I’m finding my way to start working on my dreams and goals. I face lot of challanges to fufil those. But the process and struggle allows me to grow and learn about being ‘Me’… to be ‘transparent being’…
    Thank you for your post! Stay blessed!

    • Hello Transparent Being, Loved to hear that you’re fighting for your dreams and goals. Very few have the courage to do that. Challenges are just the way of our dreams to check us whether we have enough power to reach them and grab them with both of our hands.
      It’s never about the destination, it’s about the process and the struggle we fall in love with. I like the idea of “Transparent Being”. Keep working on your dream and thank you for being here. Have a great day!!! 🙂

  3. I actually have reached that point in my life where I do not care if you like me or approve of me or what your opinion from you is of me. If you didn’t give me a chance and try to get to know me that’s on you…I am not here to launder yer dirty secrets stuffed in yer underwears or hold you by the hand and play the games people play in order for you to wiggle ones way into a pair of mine and than have you turn on me & air out mine. I am the oldest of five sisters, women with their own lives and I could care less what low opinions some of them may have of me and my failures in life. You can love your family but sometimes we all struggle with that like part…nicely written piece. You are writing from the heart and as you experience, change and mature…

    • Great insight Miss. firefly, I’m on the same face to. I’m tired of depending upon others opinions for me and my dreams. In my entire life of 22 years I haven’t lived for myself, but it’s high time for me now to follow my dreams and passions irrespective of what others think of it. Thanks for your lovely words and for the appreciation. Glad to see that you found out what I was saying in-between the lines. Have a great life Miss. firefly. Blessings for you!!! 🙂

  4. This was me before. I cared so much about what people will say or think of me and my life was messy. But one day I changed my mind and thought and it changed my life. This piece of yours not only reminds me of what my life was like then, it also strengthens me to keep pressing on to becoming what I’m not yet, and never return to who I used to be. Thank vinay!

  5. This is a truly great post. No matter how hard you try sometimes you end up falling prey to other people’s opinions. I’ve grown up in such a way that it’s almost impossible to go beyond what your elders tell you. But I’ve realized the importance of standing my ground. Thank you for putting this out there!

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