The most destructive thing I’ve ever done was believe in someone else’s opinion of me.
I always give more credence to other people opinion than mine. I let someone else’s vision become more important than my own. But I didn’t realize that I’m going to end up becoming a slave to what other people want. I stop trusting my judgment because I assume that other people know better! That’s why my life sucks in the past because I was living on their terms, not mine.
IT’S TIME TO STOP LIVING YOUR LIFE ON WHAT OTHERS THINK
Lately, I’ve been making a lot of “unconventional” decisions in my life and the direction in which my life is headed. I’m straying away from what society believes is normal and what a college educated guy should be doing nowadays. I’m ultimately making decisions with my heart, rather than with my head. And, unfortunately, many people do raise their voice and their so called “Opinion” upon that. But am I going to let it stop me? Absolutely not.
Every one of us definitely going to encounter a situation like this at some point in their lives, whether it’s a big decision or a small one. I can already tell you that not everyone will be on board with your decision and almost everyone will have some kind of opinion on the matter. Some will voice it, others will not. It may even be your own friends and family who are going to target you. They are going to put you up on the wall and hang you up in there till you agree with their opinion. They may make you second guess yourself. They may even talk you out of something that you really, truly believed was best for you. Believe in me “you cannot let that happen.”
I’m not saying that your loved ones want something wrong for you. They’re just looking out for you and want the best for you. But they don’t know what you’re dreaming about, maybe you can’t explain to them with that enthusiasm that you feel towards your dream. But you know what? At the end of the day, you’re the one who knows what’s better for you. You’re the one who has to live with whatever decision you end up making. You’re the one who’s willing to put that much effort into your dream that no one else ever imagines off.
It’s not a bad thing at all to ask for the opinion and help from other people, especially because I do think it’s important to get some outside perspective. But when their opinion makes you put your dream into a garbage box then my friend it’s time to screw their opinion and start working on your dream venture. It’s your life if you‘re not going to drive your roller-coaster than who will?
“Problems are like washing machines. They twist; they spin and knock us around. But in the end, we come out cleaner, brighter and better than before.”
Put on your blinders. Stop looking at what everyone else is doing. Keep your eyes on your own paper. Seriously, everyone’s journey is different.
We live in a world where everyone’s life, every single little detail is out there on the internet. But unfortunately, it does more damage than good. We end up being comparing ourselves to their lives which are only going to hinder our own progress.
Comparing yourself to some extent is ok but not at the cost of your happiness and dream. Every freaking person out there is different, their circumstances are different, and they’re living a different life story. So stop comparing yourself to them. This is your life, your journey – live it your way.
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours. It is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” – Bob moawad
Make the decision of living your life on your terms. It’s a simple concept but not as easy as it sounds. Read my guide on living your life on your terms. Just forgot about the failures they are part of your success. No one ever succeeds without failing several times.
Just go with your intuition. What feels right for you? What you think is your true calling? Just go with it. Tuning into your intuition is an essential piece of letting go of other people’s opinions.
Ultimately this is YOUR life. You’re the one who will wake up at the end of it and either feel that you’ve lived a life that was fulfilling and energizing. Or did you live a life that you regretted?
One of the biggest regrets of the dying is:
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
The only person’s opinion that really matters is your own.
I’ll say that again THE ONLY PERSON’S OPINION THAT MATTERS IS YOUR OWN.
Mark my words you’re going to regret later. Start believing in yourself. Work on your passion such that it makes you forget to sleep and eat. Spend time with people who urge you to level up your game and set your boundaries towards those who belittle you. Keep striving to make every single day better than the last. That’s all I’ve to say.